Disciplining with Time Out
Choosing a Location
Choose a place away from toys, people, TVs, radios, windows and anything else entertaining. There should be no breakable objects nearby. It is best to have children sit in an adult chair during time out. Never turn off the light, as you don't want to scare the child.
· Best Places Hallway
Parents Bedroom
Kitchen Corner
· Least Effective Child's Bedroom
· Unacceptable Places Bathroom
Closet
Dark Room
Time Out Steps
1. Issue a command.
2. If your child does not obey the command within 5 seconds, issue a warning: "If you do not _____, you will go to time out."
3. If your child does not obey the command within 5 seconds, state: "Because you did not ______, you must go to time out."
4. Remain calm and lead your child to time out without lecturing, scolding, or arguing.
5. Ignore shouting, protesting, and promises to obey. Do not speak to your child at this time.
6. Tell him/her to sit in the time out chair. If he gets up tell him the time out period will start over.
7. When he is sitting quietly, set the timer for the appropriate length of time (1 minute for each year of age).
8. When the time out is over, including being quiet for the last 30 seconds, return to the chair and tell him the time out is over. Do not nag or lecture the child as to the reason he went to time out.
9. Restate the original command. If the child obeys, praise him.
10. If the child does not comply, implement the time out again.
Time Out Problems and Solutions
It is recommended that parents use time out only in the home parents and their children learn the steps. When children consistently take time outs with little fussing, then start using it outside of the home. In places where chairs are not available, use a corner, a step, a specific tile, etc. Never leave your child unattended in a public place.
· Refusing to go to the chair - Carry him with legs facing away from your body.
· Refusing to sit in the chair - Do not start the time out until he is seated.
· Leaving or moving the chair - Stop the timer until he sits down. Place him in the chair, tell him to stay, and place your hand on his leg.
· Insulting you - Ignore the yelling and crying.
· Refusing to leave time-out - Start time out over.
· Sibling interacting with the - Put the sibling in time out in another location.